The fear of public speaking is as pervasive as it is paralysing for numerous parties in the workplace today.
If you are one of the millions of people who feel fearful, disagreeable or insecure about presenting and public speaking such articles will help you.
This is a statement I can realize with great confidence, as Mindful Presenter has devoted over a decade curing some of the most intelligent, inventive and talented professionals in the world to manage and overcome their suspicion of public speaking.
If you’re interested in when, where and why your fear of public speaking started this isn’t the focus of this blog. Whether you were a 6-year-old presenting in front of your class or a 26 -year-old presenting to the board of directors for the first time isn’t our station of focus for now.
Our prime concern and goal is to share potential solutions to overcome the career limiting fear of public speaking. Please don’t misunderstand me, I know it can be comforting and helpful to know how and why everything there is started. For now, let’s focus on what you can do to help yourself.
Please keep in mind as you search through this article that, contrary to common creed, there is a lack of’ occult wands’ or’ silver bullets’ which will instantly remove the discomfort. It takes mindfulness, practice, an open attention and effort to work your acces through the challenge.
Your errand as you read this article is to try out the ideas that resonate with you in some manner , no matter how big. As you do so, keep in mind that repetition together with reflection is the mother of learning.
Tip 1- Mark Twain was right
Here at Mindful Presenter Ltd we believe that Mark Twain was right when he said, “There are two types of orators: Those who get nervous and all those people who liars.”
Please don’t delude yourself that you have been handpicked by the Universe as one of the adopt few to feel the fear of public speaking during your time now on earth.
It’s a world-wide and densely populated club; you are not alone.
Your first task is to acknowledge and accept it as regular. Only then can you properly begin to explore and try using some of the other suggestions.
Tip 2- Listen to Wayne Dyer, he was right too
I believe it was the late Dr Wayne Dyer who said, “If you change the route you look at things, the things you look at change.”
This of course is a significant human challenge which diversifies itself far beyond the fear of public speaking. You can speak much more about this in one of Wayne Dyer’s first journals,’ Your Erroneous Zones.’
Rather than “ve been thinking about” and seeing your audience as predators who are there to evaluate, challenge and criticise you, ask yourself if there is a truer perspective.
Is it possible that they are simply looking for you to help make their lives better, easier or happier in some manner?
Tip 3- Stop presenting and start connecting
Do you indeed experience being presented to?
Most people don’t; they prefer to be connected with.
It was the most inspirational Maya Angelou who said, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but beings will never forget how you started them feel.”
Have you ever come across a greater truism?
Rather than focusing on how you can impress your audience try “ve been thinking about” how you can construct them feel something emotionally as well as intellectually.
Tip 4- Speak neatly to yourself
In his article, ‘No Freaking Speaking’, Matt Abrahams says 😛 TAGEND
‘We are really mean to ourselves. There are things we do to ourselves that we are also able never imagine doing to others. Nowhere is this more evident than prior to giving a rendition. The negative self-talk we invoke and the nervousnes stories we tell ourselves prepared us up for failure.’
Just speak delicately to yourself.
Tip 5- Remember how far you’ve come
It’s highly likely that the reason you are presenting in the first place is because you have a level of acquaintance, insight or message which your public doesn’t.
Whether this is true or not, it doesn’t genuinely matter.
The fact is you have come a very long way so far and you owe it to yourself to remember that.
Do you remember 😛 TAGEND
Learning to journey your first bicycle Come an exam at institution Your first caresses Being offered your very first job Being promoted Falling in love
I’m certain that your list of personal achievements no matter how seemingly small is much wider.
The next time the fear of public speaking begins to raise its ominou intelligence, just recollect how far you’ve come.
“What we can or cannot do, what we consider possible or impossible, is rarely a function of our true-blue ability. It is more likely a function of our ideologies about who we are.”- Anthony Robbins
Tip 6- Ask yourself 4 questions
The next time you are called on to present and you feel the fear of public speaking ask yourself what’s going through your mind.
Once you have identified those thoughts and limiting beliefs that are causing you so much unrest ask yourself the following 4 questions.
Question 1: Is it true-life?
Question 2: Can you absolutely know it’s true-life?
Question 3: How do you react–what happens–when you believe that judged?
Question 4: Who would you be without the thinking?
Tip 7- Take it to Vagus
The greatest physiological talent we all have in our crusade to manage and overcome the fear of public speaking and presenting is our vagus gut. Now is an extract from an clause I wrote years ago; ‘Public Speaking Doesn’t Have to Feel So Stressful’
‘We’ve all are aware of’ combat or flight’ which is a primitive yet critical function of our sympathetic nervous system which basically says that when we feel under threat our person reacts in an instant to either fight off the threat or moved away from it. Unfortunately, the feeling of vulnerability when speaking to people in public can represent a significant conscious and subconscious threat for a large number of people. This is where the vagus gut can come to our quick rescue because as an essential part of our parasympathetic nervous system it’s the nerve that calms you down
One of the best ways to stimulate the vagus nerve to soothe us down when we feel so anxious about presenting and public speaking is to breathe properly.
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