This week has been quite a roller coaster for Melody Holt but she tells BOSSIP she’s agitated for what lies ahead.
We spoke with the ” Love& Marriage: Huntsville”star about the exhaust of her new single “Tell Tale Signs,” Martell’s accusations that she was also unfaithful and why she decided to end her 12 year marriage .[ Editor’s Note: News of Holt’s divorce being finalized actually crack shortly after we ended this interview .]
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BOSSIP: Congrats on the release of your brand-new single “Tell Tale Signs.” Is this the single we “ve seen you” performing a few episodes back on” Love& Marriage: Huntsville “?
Melody Holt: About two occurrences ago, I was able to be captured recording my new single that droops March 20 th “Tell Tale Signs.” It’s been amazing getting back to my first love and that’s really anything that deals with the arts. When you think of music and behaving that has been amazing and a great healing piece for me as well, being able to express and work through the pain that I had to endure and just really putting energy into my music.
How long has music been a passion for you?
I started out at a very young age dancing, playing, singing and my momma always had me in a good deal of undertakings. I sang in the church choir, toy the forte-piano, anything that involved the arts I tried to play a part in it. I kind of got away from my first love after college. I graduated, married Martell, we got married right away. I started schooling and shortly after we started a business. From there we started our category. I don’t regret any of those suffers. It obviously prepared me for the music sport. I would tell anyone that it is not as easy as anyone reviews and as easy as it looks. It’s a big grind that goes into it. I’m just relish the trip. I’m glad that I have the effort ethic that it takes to endure the grind that it takes. I’m grateful to have support from their own families, my squad and my followers.
How are you releasing the music?
I am exhaust it independently, I had a few distributors come to me, believe it or not, wanting to get me to do a deployment be addressed with them. I meditated long and hard-bitten about it but intent up decides how I wanted to release it independently but I had an opportunity to work with some amazing beings. The actuality that my first song out the door is with a Grammy Award winning producer, Bob Robinson from Tim& Bob. I also had a chance to work with 1500 or Nothin and some dope novelists from Atlanta as well so it has just been great out the gate to have an amazing project where I was able to work with people who have a lot of history and reputation behind their appoint.
How do you be addressed with haters? Have you had naysayers telling you to stick to real estate? How do you deal with people who don’t see your vision?
I haven’t gotten a lot of that. I actually just trying to, I’m very particular about who I have in my circle, in my life and who I allow to be in my entire living know. I haven’t had a lot of that. I are genuinely exclusively count a handful that I’ve seen. Not saying they’re not around — but from what I’ve seen — I like to stay in the eagle view honey so the little nonsense going down below, I don’t see much about it. One thing that was said to me was,’ Well you have children so I don’t know if you’re going to have the time that it will take .’ Someone said,’ Well you’re 35 and a great deal of beings get into the game when they’re in their early 20′ s .’ That was something that was stated to me and frankly I kind of let it go right in one ear and out the other. Honestly I don’ think there should be an age limit or a limit on what you can do because you have children. If you feel that you have been endowed with a geniu and you want to work that geniu there is nothing wrong with that. So I only continue to work and continue to put my best foot forward.
I’ll be honest, the first time I proceeded in the studio after about 30 hours I was like,’ Forget this, I’m ready to go. I don’t want to do this. No ma’am .’ It is challenging, like I said it’s more challenging than people think it is. Being in a studio recording is different from you being at home or being at happenings and performing and singing. It’s totally different. I overcame it though, I put it out and by the time we were done we were able to have an amazing base of a masterpiece that we were able to put together. So I say no matter what it is you want to do in life don’t allow anyone to hinder you from what it is you want to do.
For the folks wondering, how far back did the events we’re interpret on the support actually happen ? strong
What’s airing right now was filmed in the Fall of 2020 — about four or five months ago.
There’s a scene on” Love& Marriage: Huntsville” this season where Martell was talking to his friends where he acknowledges he messed up by continuing to mess with his one person over an extended period of time — how long were you aware he was disloyal?
I found out three years ago in 20217.
Were you guys doing the substantiate at that time?
No we were not. 2017 found out about it, 2018 we were filming. At the time we started filming as far as I was aware the affair was done and over, so there was never a detail in my matrimony where I was aware my husband was “feel like i m cheating on” me. I’m not that chick. I’m not like an’ Okay you do you it’s fine ‘. No.
This season Martell has insisted on multiple moments that there were wrongs done on both sides. Can you address his insinuations and clarify?
I kind of addressed this as well in the last couple of episodes in my confessionals and my green screen interrogations, but in the days when Martell and I were together, when I was with my husband, I was with my husband. Unfortunately sometimes people try to deflect when there is no where else for them to turn and so it becomes a finger pointing thing and trying to figure out who did what as far as whose flaw it is so I don’t have to take responsibility right? That’s kind of what, regrettably, what the witness have witnessed this entire season. Almost every place Martell is dogging me to whoever will listen.
Nevertheless, it is what it is, at the end of the day like I shared in the testify, there was a point where I moved out and I moved out and got an apartment for six months and I entertained or talked to someone for three or four weeks and it was nothing more than that. You can call it what you what to call it. Was it trying to live a double life or cheating? Not to me, extremely considering we didn’t have sexual intercourse, so not to me. But at the same time I wasn’t strategy ever to move back with him[ Martell ]. I was planning to file for divorce, hence why I moved out. That’s that. Since then I’ve been extend and I moved out almost a year ago now and registered for a divorce shortly after I moved out, everyone has been trying to live their life and get closure. I reckon regrettably it’s one of those situation where deflection has happened and I really don’t address. I really don’t talk about it.
A large-hearted part of the storyline this season has been Martell having a child outside of your matrimony. Was that the final straw for you? Was that when you felt like there’s no going back at this station?
What a lot of beings don’t realize is when I left April 4th, I didn’t have any suggestion about another child whatsoever, that wasn’t the end game for me. I previously had decided that the union was no longer working for me before I found that out. To the people who like to find a reason to hate Mel I know they would love to say,’ Oh the only reasonablenes she left was because mortal was pregnant ,’ no I left before I knew that. Even though it was told to me in May, I registered for my divorce in June but I was already trying to have a divorce settlement agreement in May. Actually when I left in April, I had someone putting together a licensing agreement in April. So it was not one of those things where I left because someone was pregnant. Truth be told in May I was told the rumor was true, I was then told in June, July and August that it wasn’t. But it didn’t change my mind about what I wanted to do, which was to step away from this wedlock because it had just become a wedlock that was no longer working for me and I knew I was no longer getting what I deserved.
What kind of responses have you been receiving from your gathering? Are you coming a lot of support from women who see you as a role model for walking away, specially considering it seems clear Martell would prefer to reconcile?
If I wanted to be with Martell right now I “couldve been”. He expects daily approximately. Let me violate this down. I be considered that we as gals sometimes are stated to go with what we feel the man misses. I’ve had people say to me,’ Please Mel don’t give up on your wedlock, I has to be noted that he still loves you .” I can see in his eyes that he misses his family .’
Why is it so much about what he misses? After he done did X, Y and Z? Why is it that I’m supposed to be excited that he still wants me? How about you crave yourself more? And you want respect for yourself more, rather than going back to something that is toxic or not good for you. I don’t get that. I predict I don’t, but I can tell you my DM’s remain filled with mostly brides trying to convince me to go back into this marriage. First, it’s kind of sad to be quite honest that we as females, it’s almost like “we ii” situation to be where the person wants us vs. doing what’s best for us. So I started telling them,’ I’m sure he’s taking applications, you go over there and fill one out! If you think he’s that great …’
On the flip side I do have a lot of women who are like’ Mel, your strength! I’ve been able to see myself and my situation through your place and pull from your strong and I’ve been able to walk away from this situation that wasn’t good for me or benefitting me or had me depressed .’ So many different narratives like that as well, so it’s definitely been an interesting ride experience how my scaffold and now me being a public figure and people being able to see my life on television, the very best, bad and the ugly.
How has your religion and spirituality carried you through this difficult time?
Your faith and your spirituality and you insight is so important in your life, extremely when you’re going through things. That can be what really helps you get through those dark minutes. I can be argued without a shadow of a mistrust, my upbringing and having that spiritual foundation has helped me on the days I didn’t feel so good to remind me not only of who I am, but whose I am.
How long were you and Martell together?
Martell and I got together in 2007 and we got married in 2008. We got married about a year and a half after we started dating.
Do you see yourself working with Martell again ever in the future, outside of the see?
There’s not any ground for us to candidly. So I’d say no.
Where’s been a lot of have referred to you leaving Huntsville, do you plan to stay in Huntsville?
I’m bicoastal. I become between Atlanta, Huntsville and I’m also looking for a place in L.A. The hour that I have my kiddos I’m in Huntsville.
How are your kids dealing here with your divorce and how important was it for you that your daughters by pattern that you would not accept disrespect in your wedlock?
The fact that I have three girlfriends, it was super important for me too knowing that they’re watching and that one day they will be their own woman. I needed here to know that it doesn’t matter how convenient something may seem, precisely that you don’t have to remain in something that does not work for you — where you and the person have totally different slants on wedding. It’s okay to walk away and there’s going to always remember and know that’ Wow, my mama had four of us and despite her having four children she still chose to walk away from something that was not good for her .’ I know that as they grow into their own sense of womanhood one day they’ll know that they don’t have to take anything from anybody. Just knowing to have that strong as a woman to be able to get out on your own, walk away from the toxicity and still thrive and still be your own woman and still own your own purpose, that’s something they’ll continue to see and that will be a part of them. Even for my son, I need my son to know,’ Hey if you discuss a woman like this, this and this, you may lose that woman. Don’t ever think you have her bind down because you have children and businesses together that she won’t walk away from you because Son, if you ain’t treating her right, you pictured Mommy walked away, she can walk away.’
So these are some things I know they’re hearing but overall they are doing alright. They are having to adapt to this change because all they’ve known is Mom and Dad being together under the same roof so now they are having to learn,’ Okay sometimes we’re with Mom and sometimes we’re with Dad .’ But even in that I believe in leaving communication open and let them know it’s okay to express how they feel and causing them know’ You know your friend such and such? They go to Mommy’s house sometimes and their Dad’s live sometimes ,’ so they know it’s not just them. We have those various kinds of exchanges but all in all I feel my girls are doing well and I am so pleased that they are able to see me happy. We’re just certainly experiencing and spending time together and doing entertaining things together.
I think sometimes when we’re going through things you forget how it affects everyone around you because you’re feeling hurt, you’re feeling deluded, you’re feeling incensed and when you walk away from whatever is giving you those negative vibes and treading into a positive seat, everyone around you feels that positive vigor as well. When the time comes to my children I know they realise the positive exertion from me and they feel the difference and the change in a positive way.
Such incredible forte from Melody! Check out her new single “Tell Tale Signs” below.
Melody’s song “Tell Tale Signs” is currently available on all streaming pulpits. What did you think? Those lyrics obviously hit hard.
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